As always, it was an enjoyable Father’s Day weekend. I am so thankful for my family and it brings me a great deal of joy to be with my wife, children and grandchildren. I always get my favorite dish (home made shepherd’s pie) and favorite dessert (coffee cake). I enjoy the day, as do many of the dads that I know. The day led me to think of a quote that I had written down several years ago that seems primarily focused on men. It goes like this:
“Most men would rather be envied for their achievements than admired for their character.” (Unknown)
I wonder how often this is true. There is something about achieving that seems to ring the bell for a lot of men. We want to be successful, to make a difference, and to do a little better than the people around us. I often get together with guys and one of the first items of discussion has to do with what we do. We casually talk about how many hours we work, how busy we are, the stuff we do at work or home. Yet I do not see as much passion often when it comes to character. I am left asking myself if I am as focused on my ability to serve my wife and kids when no one is looking, do my best when it will not get noticed, go the extra mile for those who need it, and the list could go on.
Yet it seems that when I die, the people that will stand up at my funeral will focus on my character more than what I achieved. For myself, I want to be building that legacy today. So hopefully, I can live my life with a focus on my character, and let my achievements be what they may. I wonder if this quote would be true of you?
Weldon Lemke has been leading Hope Chapel since 2009 with a passion to see people come to know God and grow to maturity in Him.